Want to stay young? Get some motivation! Nothing motivates you like having someone with younger eyes. someone that hasn’t “seen it all” and “done it all”! Someone that is more than willing to climb the next mountain to see what’s on the other side!
Having given up on finding a American woman that met that criteria, I retired to the Philippines… or so I thought!
Once completely settled into my life I got a job offer, back in the States, that I just couldn’t turn down! So, wife and I packed up what we could carry (the same way I moved to the Philippine) and headed to the USA, arriving in early 2019.
The first year just showing Teresa around the US was almost a full time job, along with my full time job! Understand that I was just 71-72 at the time and Teresa was just 25. I was not in the best shape due to being firmly planted on my butt in the Philippines for 6 years prior! But, here we were, and my life, as well as hers, just got way more active!
Of course, the Covid Farce hit the following year and almost everyone, but us, crawled under their beds to hide from this flu. We, on the other hand, traveled extensively, even moving from Texas to Indiana during that time! Finally got Covid in January of 2022. After a week of the lightest “cold” we’d ever had our lives, life went back to normal!
So, what’s the advantage of being married to a much younger woman? Well, there’s the obvious; which is she’s a knockout, still young, vibrant, full of love and full of life, ready for her next great experience! Why on earth would she want to be with a man almost 3 times her age? Really, why!?
Life in the Fast Lane!
“Been there, done that, got the tee-shirt!!!” LET’S DO IT AGAIN!!! That’s right, the second, or third time you do something, you know how to do it better! A lot better! And living it though “new eyes” (to use a term from a Gallagher skit) makes it better than ever!
Then there’s always her desire to do something you’ve never done… NEVER DONE??? You’re mid 70’s you’ve done everything… SURPRISE!!! You haven’t! Another SURPRISE, you enjoy the heck out of it, because she does!
She loves the wisdom and in-depth knowledge you bring to the relationship. While you are also a better listener and more appreciative partner than those her age. She enjoys being with a real man, not some boy trying to be a man…. with training wheels.
I’ve always been attracted to younger women, much younger women. I’ve always enjoyed their energy level and sense of adventure. So, when I met my wife, the age difference was huge but our interests aligned. Her tastes in music matched mine exactly. We were both nomadic naturally. Neither of us wanted children (in my case, more children). We had the same goals and our sense of humor matched. We checked all the boxes on the other’s list.
Being a Mentor
I have a fairly high IQ. In fact most people can’t follow my train of thought, sometimes my train gets derailed, or takes an unintended siding. I’m also slow to get to the point (because, in my mind, there’s no straight path to the point). Anyway, my wife can keep up! She has become an avid student and has grown exponentially in her abilities. She now is CEO of our company, allowing me the time to work in the background on many, varied, projects. Our synergy is phenomenal.
Cultural Differences vs Age Differences
I traveled half way around the world to find my love. I was living in the Philippines when I saw this cutie on a dating site. Dropped her a message, we connected, and a week later met in person. We’re still on our first date!
We quickly discovered that age was not an issue with us. Our energy levels were closely aligned. Our sleep patterns matched. Our desire for new, exciting, adventure was spot on. She was a yes girl, and I was a yes guy! We did all we could do to help the other enjoy life.
However, cultural differences and some language issues did loom. But, the Philippines is an English speaking country… um, yeah, right. The average Filipino speaks limited English, with a broader understanding of English, with a caveat! The meanings of words do not always align! An example is “salvage”. To an American the word has many meanings depending upon usage in a sentence. To a Filipino the word means to discard/trash, that’s it, just throw it away. So, when I asked my wife if she wanted to salvage something (meaning do you wish to save it) her response was NO! NO??? Why not? She meant that she didn’t want to trash it! But, that’s not what she said! Until I dug deeper, we had a huge misunderstanding, yet we were in total agreement. Patience and a desire to understand saved the day on that one! It is one of many word meaning issues we have discovered over the years.
Of course there are Family Issues!
When an older man starts a relationship with a woman who happens to be 5 years younger than his granddaughter there are bound to be concerns. My daughter just couldn’t accept the difference. I’m not certain that she can now, but at least she’s met Teresa and we’ve stayed at my daughter’s home. They get along great, but there’s still something there. Most of my wife’s family accepted me quickly, but the age difference is common in the Philippines. It is even expected when a Filipina meets a foreigner. My mother-in-law is much younger than my daughter, and my father-in-law is almost exactly my daughter’s age.
There are No Serious Issues Socially
One would logically expect that there would be some social issues. We have never experienced any real issue, either in the Philippines, or in the US. We do get some looks, but that’s just people trying to understand, it never becomes an issue and certainly is not an issue for us. We travel extensively and even checking into a hotel has never been a problem.
Life is Magical and More Fun
Dang, how do I even find the words to express how much fun it is to be with a younger, loving, woman! She climbs into my lap for a hug! She’s attentive to my needs! I am also attentive to her needs! We are playful! We are spontaneous! Life doesn’t get in the way of living! She enjoys nature and simple pleasures. Travel is when she’s the happiest. That is also when I’m the happiest. Life’s a blast!
Buy a Convertible!
Hell, buy three!!! Yep, we own three Saab convertibles! Why? Well, they are collectable, they are fantastic to drive, great fun top up, or top down. They suit us to a T. She has hers and I have mine… then we have a “spare”. Life is about pleasure and how you travel can add to the pleasure. An SUV, or land yacht might make more sense, but I love the wind in my hair and the feel of the sun on my skin! We both love fast cars! So, the cars complete us.
In summary, I encourage every man that finds himself alone and wants to avoid the trappings of old age, to venture out. If you are rich, you may be able to find a younger woman in the US. If you are of modest means, the Philippines has a lot of younger, very beautiful, women that would love to meet you!
One Caution: Just like anywhere, there are those that would take advantage of you, and those that truly want to love you expecting nothing in return except love. If she treats you like an ATM, constantly asking for money, kick her to the curb! I did! Then find a true and faithful woman to love! I did!
